Compulsive hoarding is a mental disorder that is just beginning to be understood. As a hoarder, I have acquired things over the years with a specific purpose in mind at the time of the acquisition, used some of those items for their intended purposes, forgotten the goal for different objects, but now that I find that they have outlived their purpose in my life I am struggling to rid myself of those same things.

You can read the start of my journey here.

Monday, July 26, 2010

It's official. I think.

Today I decided to give my back a break from standing on the concrete that is the floor of the patio. I might give my back a break tomorrow, too, since it's supposed to be in the high 90s. The rest of the week is supposed to be a lot cooler, so I'll probably head out to finish things up then.

In the meantime, I did get both Hopper and Scooter's hair cut today. At least for the most part. I know that over the next few days, I'll see a strand or two of hair I've missed, or I'll see where I need to do a little touch up. It's always been this way whether I cut their hair, or somebody else does it. The biggest part of it is out of the way. The rest is easy.

I do take the girls in every once in awhile to get their hair cut, but I like the way it turns out when I cut their hair. I know how it lays. I know that I have to undercut it in the back more deeply than a stylist does, or it doesn't lay right. I can give them a break and let them move around a little more freely than a stylist can, if need be. Plus, I can use the television to keep their attention.

The main reason I decided to cut their hair today, is because I had to do more than trim it. Haircuts can be stressful at times. Especially for Hopper. And where she's had a problem with her anxiety and meltdowns a lot over the last couple months, I was afraid she might melt when she saw I was cutting 5 to 6 inches off. She's really struggled with that sort of thing in the past, so I just wasn't sure. Instead, both girls were thrilled with their new hairdos, and I was happy they were done.

Best thing of all today? Bugster, Bubster and Frank (doesn't that sound like the beginning of a really bad joke?) got great news today. The boys' dad some money for child support, a notarized power of attorney and something (also notarized) granting Bubster and Bugster temporary legal guardianship of Frank. It's good for a year. We're not sure, but we think this means the kids are officially Frank's legal guardians as of this moment.

However, we're not positive. There is a chance that Calamity will have to sign as well, and that doesn't look too promising. She's drinking again, and that's never, ever a good situation. I think Bugster will find out tomorrow when she takes the paperwork to the school to get Frank registered, if they have everything they need, or if they're going to need Calamity's signature. I think we'll all sort of be holding our collective breath until she finds out.

I, for one, am looking forward to breathing again.


  1. Bubs and Bugs should be good for now. At least for registering for school. I wish them all the luck in the world, as I have been down this road many times with my ex. I have full everythig now (legal and custodial) and it is so much easier to raise them. Two years ago when I finally got that permanent court order, I felt as though I had taken my first breath of life all over again. Anyway,

    Enjoy your break! You're doing so good, it gives me hope that the hoarders I love will someday be able to be recovering like you. :) -J

  2. I sooo hope that everything goes smoothly and that they don't need ANYTHING from the mom.

    Give your back a break. It deserves it.

  3. Hope that Franks guadianship is now in ther right hands , seems to me if dad signed it over and was caregiver that even if Calamity raises a fuss it will be manageable .

  4. Good luck to them! I'm glad they got guardianship.

  5. Definately avoid that heat! Hope it does go through smoothly for them!

  6. Goodness gracious me that whole situation is so complicated. um ... shouldn't that Calamity women be put into care, and any administrative responsibility she may have for Franck taken off her? It seems ludicrous that she can have such a huge influence on his important life decisions when she is drunk and doesnt care. Can social services take over?


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